Cheating should i tell her

What should I do? First, you may not actually know what you think you know. Second, even if you do know for a fact he is cheating, that is not your relationship to save or disrupt; it is theirs.

At most, consider confronting the cheater and urging him to confess. No editorializing, just the facts, please. If you see something, say something.

RD : No doubt about it; tell her. There are too many shitty, inconsiderate men in life to accommodate anyway; shine theory the shit out of this and help your friend. Then why would you hesitate to protect her emotions?

Help your friend. AJ : Hello, you. Please tell her? Everybody deserves to know the truth, more so about their own life. How your friend takes it, after listening to you, is on her. It sounds like you are really in a bad emotional place. I am sorry to hear that — truly. As I write this response out, I know there will be some who think you are not deserving of sympathy. Please know any ugly comments that may be made are not attributed to me.

Now here is the thing — most of the advice available online regarding this topic is really written to grab headlines on sites with a female audience. Here at Guy Counseling, we try to offer real answers to men about a variety of subjects, including the thorny issue of infidelity. You were at the hotel bar, nursing a whiskey with a garnish and trying your best to not stare at the beautiful blond bombshell positioned nearby.

At some point, the two of you made eye-contact; a glance just long enough to indicate both of you were interested. Moments later, you got to talking. The connection was instant and carnal.

Sometime later that night, both of you found your way to your room. She removed her top. You removed your pants. The rest is history. The answer to that question, at least from my perspective, is simply this: It depends. Here is why I am saying this. You never mentioned in your note if the two of you had an exclusive arrangement.

On the off chance that both of you are still casually dating, it may not be a smart idea to confess — well, at least not yet. Think about it for a quick second. I can very easily see a situation where you tell her what happened. Are you ready to hear this news? I ask because now might be an appropriate time to start focusing on what kind of relationship you have.

Are you completely sure you are ready for this type of commitment? Just food for thought as you contemplate things. Should you tell her then? They have "inability to commit to monogamy but are also not honest enough to ask for an open relationship. Read more: I just learned I'm 'the other woman' in a relationship. Should I tell my fling's wife what happened? There are also different reasons people cheat, and those influence whether or not they'll do it again.

According to Nelson, a person could simply enjoy the act of cheating may never change because it's built in to their personality. But others may cheat because, for instance, they're lacking self-confidence; getting attention from a person outside their relationship can make them feel important and desirable.

This type of cheater can learn to build their self-confidence and change. People can also cheat because of a situation, not their personality: For instance, Westheimer said that if you cheat while under the influence of alcohol and regret it afterwards, it's a sign you shouldn't disclose the incident to your partner.

Don't tell your partner," she said. If you want to tell your partner about a one-time act of infidelity to make them feel better, that gesture could be misplaced. According to Nelson, someone who feels guilty for cheating is usually better off keeping the affair under wraps. Although telling could make the cheater feel better for getting the affair off their chest, it could put their partner in a not-so-great position where they feel bad about themselves or like they can't trust the cheater anymore.